Saturday, May 28, 2011

Not Fashionable to Have Regrets

I've been slowly making my way back through Robert Benson's beautiful book, "Between the Dreaming and the Coming True," and wanted to share a few bits and pieces with you over the next few days.

He writes:

"In our age of individualism and self-reliance, it is not very fashionable to say that one has regrets about the past.  But it is dishonest of us to say that we do not.  If the choice were to be made now between the hell that I lived in for various times in my life - anger, divorce, loneliness, depression, fear of failure - then I am as glad as anyone to be where I am today.  And I am perfectly capable of swimming in the existential stream that says that all of those things were necessary in order for me to be where I am today, a place in which I am very happy.  But I do not for one moment imagine that all of the things that have happened to me, and all of the terrible things I have done to others, were imagined for me by the One who dreamed me up."  (pg. 78-79)

4 comments:

tea said...

I totally agree.

Lisa said...

Thanks, Tea :)

shallowfrozenwater said...

this reached me. thank you.

Lisa said...

I'm glad, Ian.